November 6, 2015 / como / 0 Comments
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If you watch any of the television programs that feature individuals and families searching for another home – or updating the one they already have – it seems that hardwood floors are always first on the list. One would think that wood flooring is a new fad when in fact hardwoods have been in vogue for hundreds of years. There are some ‘ancient’ reasons why wood floors are such a good investment plus there have been some recent discoveries that make the choice even better. .
When settlers and new townspeople began building permanent homes, unless they were extremely wealthy, they used the natural resources around them. In most areas there were plenty of forests with trees that were indigenous to the area. This is why you may see a lot of the really older homes in the South with knotty pine floors and homes in the northwest with other hardwoods. Should you find any of these older structures you will discover that with a little sanding and polishing the original wood floors will be as good as new. Wood floors last for generations (if you have termite protection!).
Unlike carpeting, hardwoods do not attract and keep allergens. Pet dander and dust are easily removed as are other allergens. If you have a tile floor and someone makes a scuff or little dent in the tile it cannot be repaired easily. Sometimes it has to be replaced altogether. These little things age a wood floor and give it character.
You see all these modern cleaning appliances and wood floor cleaning solutions on television and on the Internet. However, homemakers have been cleaning their hardwood floors with a simple solution of vinegar and water for years. It is not an expensive cleaning project. And it works!
Real wood floors are a great insulation. The earliest builders probably found this out for themselves. When properly installed, they prevent drafts and cold from coming up from the foundation or basement. And next to carpeting, wood floors make a great sound barrier. Your home will be much quieter than if you had marble, terrazzo or tiles floors that echo sound.
Your flooring store can show you the vast selection of wood that can be used today. It is available in ‘regular’ narrow plank or the wide plank. It can be installed in a liner fashion or there can be variegated lengths to create patterns. Actual wood that is used can be pine, oak, maple, mahogany, cherry, birch and something even more exotic like teak.
What decorators love is that a wood floor can fit in with any dcor or color palate. This is because natural wood can be sanded to the bare bones and then stained the exact color that will bring out the beauty of your furniture. Naturally, the wood floor will be stunning as well.
Since 1948, family-owned Atlas Floors Carpet One has been the premiere floor supplier and installer of quality hardwood, ceramic tile, carpet, vinyl and laminate flooring and more for local homes and businesses in San Antonio and surrounding areas. Best San Antonio Flooring Company.
November 5, 2015 / como / 0 Comments
Many of us have had a spouse or family member arrive home after a few too many drinks. Some of us have needed to make up excuses for a loved one’s occasional over-drinking. Imagine if this was a daily occurrence. Waiting, worrying, and watching the clock, wondering when, and in what state, a spouse would finally come home, and then trying to hide it all from neighbors, family and the children.
For seventeen years, this was author Alberta H. Sequeira’s existence every day as she dealt with her husband’s alcoholism. She loved mild-mannered Richard Lopes and witnessed how alcohol changed him from a loving family man with a successful business to a careless, angry, abusive drunk.
Written like dramatic fiction, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis is a fast paced, tension-filled account of a woman’s tireless effort to keep her family together, her two children safe and to protect her own mental and physical well being. Sequeira gives an honest telling of life married to an alcoholic-a life filled with sadness, fear, pain and despair.
Sequeira didn’t believe in divorce and was too proud to seek help from her parents, deciding to go it alone. Several times it seemed her husband was ready to quit his devastating lifestyle and commit fully to being a good partner and devoted father, only to have him fall back to bingeing and his alcoholic ways. This rollercoaster life took its toll on Sequeira, plaguing her with frequent panic attacks and eventually bringing her to the brink of a total breakdown.
Through arguments, unpaid bills, violent rage, emotional abuse and neglect, Sequeira kept hope that her husband would eventually realize he had a problem, and seek treatment. He never did…always believing he was just having a few drinks with his buddies after a hard day’s work. Sequeira takes her share of the blame for all the times she could have kicked him out, demanded he got help, or pressed charges for the abuse. I found myself cheering for her, hoping that in the end Mr. Lopes would choose to save his marriage and his family. Despite being divorced from Mr. Lopes, Sequeira suffered greatly when he succumbed in 1985 to the damage done to his body from a lifetime of drinking.
Alberta H. Sequeira is a talented writer. She shows great courage not only in surviving, but in her willingness to return to these experiences when she wrote this memoir. I believe this book could be of great help to alcoholics, their families and even counselors. I highly recommend Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis and I look forward to the follow-up coming soon. The sequel, Please, God, Not Two-This Killer Called Alcoholism details how Sequeira’s daughter, Lori Cahill, followed the same path as her father.
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November 5, 2015 / como / 0 Comments
You can do it.” You hear this statement a lot. You sit with friends and family and ended up talking about all the things you want to accomplish and all the ways you want a different world and you hear the standard answer. “You can do this” is easy to dismiss this statement as just the comfort of a close companion.
But buried deep in this statement is a lot of truth. You can do this. You can. Your dreams are not impossible. There are many ways to achieve all the goals you want to achieve. You simply have to commit to these goals into action.
You CAN Do It – You CAN Change Your Life
Within that statement is the word -Can.- You -can- do it. Not you -will- do it. Though the statement implies that anything is within your grasp, there is still that small element of doubt – doubt that is entirely in your control. YOU can do it. Not someone else will do it for you. Not it will magically change without the slightest bit of effort. You can do whatever you want, but you can only turn that -can- into -will- if you are willing to commit to achieving those goals.
Only You Can Achieve Your Goals
What is stopping you from becoming who you want to be? Your friends want you to succeed. Your family wants you to succeed. You want to succeed. There is no one around to hold you back except yourself and your own hesitation. All you need to do is commit to putting your goals into action. It’s that simple.
Goals can be tangible, such as saving up to buy something you have always wanted. They can be emotional, such as gaining the confidence to speak out or introduce yourself to strangers. They can even be artistic, such as completing a novel or learning to paint. Any type of goal is manageable as long as you are willing to commit to reaching them.
Steps to Reaching Goals
You need to be ready to motivate yourself to change your life. One of the best ways to begin is to plan a course of action. Use the steps as follows:
Write down each goal you have in a notebook – remember, anything can be a goal. Map out all of the things you need to do to reach that goal. Give yourself a timeline/schedule. Plan how you will achieve your goals. Tell your friends and family – share with them the steps you plan on taking. Continue to motivate yourself by reminding yourself how the goals will change your life for the better.
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The only person standing in your way of changing your life is you. Your friends aren’t stopping you. Your family isn’t stopping you. Only you can motivate yourself to change your life. Commit yourself to achieving your goals, and be ready to experience the joy that comes from reaching the objectives you have set out for yourself.
If you are ready to commit to action and experience the life changing benefits of reaching your dreams, contact me today so we can start creating your personal life coaching plan.
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Scott is a Certified Professional Coach and the President of Abundance Coaching. Scott can help you follow your bliss and get more purpose in life. Scott’s passion is to help people discover what they value the most and live it. He has a fun, enlightening and unique program which includes games and personal coaching around your Core Values.
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November 4, 2015 / como / 0 Comments
If I seen many people around, they have hard work at office to get the money so they said they could have better life. But when we start sitting down at our office chair, we forget our reason to get a job. They are no longer working for their family, but to fulfill their career ambition.
On this moment we should think once again. I already seen this example from my own friend that achieve success in career. She traveled around the world to have a meeting with her office colleague from other branch. I really salute for what she have achieved for her career however her family condition is not really good.
Then we need to reconsider what actually we want in our life. If we get a job to make better live with family, why we left our family behind? So, we need to keep in mind about our first reason to get the job to support family.
Now this is your time to take an action to choose what kind of system you want to choose to tighten your family bond. Then start discusses how you can strengthen your family bond.
1. Use Phone or SMS – Phone or SMS considered useful to have communication on the distance with your family. The basic idea behind this is keep contact and have a chit-chat with your family member. My suggestion, don’t let relationship with your family lost for longer than 2 months. If you don’t make communication than you love to your family already decrease. Now we already have modern technology to help us communicate with our family faster. SMS or phone has been proven can make your communication better. This also can be effective when you have busy time in your office. You don’t take too much time to send SMS.
2. Show Appreciation – Most of the time we need to show our appretiation to our family. Show appreciation also can increase love between you and you family members. This will make you feel close to them and your relationship will get better. If you never do that, possible you or your family will feel empty in life. Therefore you should show them how much you care and take an action quickly. Not for tomorrow, but take an action today.
3. Give Flower – For so many years, people know flower as a symbol of fresh love and care. Fresh flower can have deeper meaning of love. Sometimes, I buy a bucket of flower to show my love to my wife. Flower can be a great gift that makes people happy. You can put those flowers in a vase and put in your family room to give fresh air and your will thanks for what you give to them. So if you love your family, why don’t you give them flower?
4. Eat Together – You can enchant your contact with your family during dinner. Even though it is not nice to have discussion while we eat, before dinner is ready you still may have discussion. At dinner you can find out more about your family. So you know exactly and feel your family condition. In here you can share what actually in your mind.
5. Watch movie with family – If you have a chance to watch movie together, then you have a chance to enjoy life with family. I often watch movie together with family. I feel so much different compared if am watching movie alone. When you watch movie together you will see the reaction of your family. You will see them laughing, you will see them smiling or you will see they get surprise. You can be more enjoying if you also discuss and share your view about the film.
6. Family holiday – family holiday could one of the best to have fun with your family. For me, it is already my biggest passion and dream. It is not only fun but every moment we feel will never be forgotten. However, family holiday is not always cheap. It is sometimes costly. Luckily, there are some places that do not need a lot of cash. For instance, you and your family can enjoy your holiday on beach. You can spend less money if you choose your family holiday on beach. Maybe if in your area you cannot find beach, you can go to park near you. Playing in park also fun enough, as long as you doing together with family.
The 6 way I told above is not all the way you can do to strengthen your relationship with family. Actually they are a lot of ways to do that. The basic idea, you need to spend your time together with your family. If you only have very short time, you still can give quality time to your family.
It could be bad if you some of us said they don’t have time with family. We can see for many years in the past. You can found so many families enjoy their life together, for example have a BBQ or dinner together with family. Can you see that kind of moment today?
In this modern world, we are living in rush society where people have to get good career to have good live. We do hardwork to finish our job at office. Some of us also take long shift or extra hour at office. That’s the reason why most of us cannot have fun with family.
Give a lot of money could the option for some people. To make it simpler, they purchase a console game such as Play Station, Xbox or Nintendo. So they will busy to play game alone. In my point of view, It would be more enjoyable if play console game with all family. One of the great ways that our family can enjoy. Like having holiday with family, but in this case you don’t need to go anywhere. It will be so much cheaper because you don’t spend your money on your journey to the place you choose to have a holiday.
So a good way to solve this problem you could set a schedule when is the time to have family holiday, or dinner every night. If you don’t make a plan, your family will not be united.
Sometimes when dinner come, some of our family members go hang out with friend or the parent still have extra time on the office. So it is crucial to create a schedule. It doesn’t matter how short it is.
Everyone on your family must have commitment to obey the play that already made. Including for parent, please stop working and ready to attend your dinner together with family. For children, choose the time when you want to have dinner with family and when you want to hang out with friends. In this matter, the parent should become an example for their children.
You don’t require starting with a big step. Change it little by little. If you still can’t commit with dinner, you could take your family on holiday. You can set a time whenever you like. If you don’t really have money to go, you don’t need to worries. You still can have fun at home, for example you can watch movie or play a game just like I told you before. When you do more activities along with your family, it can tight your bound with your family.
In conclusion, you can choose which ideas that your family enjoy. You may choose which method you like as long as you can continue to communicate with your family. All these ways will not be succeed if each of family members does spend their time to be together.
November 3, 2015 / como / 0 Comments
Texas Family Law. – Property division in divorce. Divorce is not a pleasant thing to do and often leads to acrimonious disputes over the trivial as well as the important things. In some instances one partner will try and extract some retribution for real or imaginary wrongs incurred against them during the marriage or break up.
The State of Texas will normally assume that there was no fault and will deal with the break up without regard to the acrimony being expressed by either party. A Texas Family Lawyer can help here. The only way this will be modified is if fault can actually be shown. Fault may well be recognized if it can be proved that the other spouse committed adultery, was physically abusive or cruel or actually abandoned them.
In cases where a fault finding is being sought attorneys with experience should be appointed to represent their client’s best interests. Such a finding of fault in a divorce case may indeed have an effect on the property division.
In any event the formalities of property division have to be completed and representation by experienced family lawyers will protect the interests of the parties and ensure that the division is fair and equitable.
Everything is made fairly easy by the existence of a pre-marital agreement. If the agreement was well drawn up then the actual property of each party coming into the marriage will be clear and identifiable. The Dallas Divorce Attorneys are experts at drwing up premarital agreements
If no pre-marital agreement exists then the first step is to clearly identify what is person’s property pre – marriage and what was acquired during the marriage but not subject to sharing with the other spouse (Inheritance or personal gift). Provided this is agreed then all of these items or their value may be removed from the equation.
Everything else is community property and has to be valued and split according to Texas Law. Valuation is very important and again an attorney with experience will safeguard the interests of the parties involved.
All assets need to be inventoried as do all debts. Any property acquired during the marriage may have gained value and a just valuation of it is essential, however taken off that must be any and all outstanding loans. There may be liabilities on property taxes due as well as store and pharmacy debts which count as joint debts as they were incurred during the marriage. Both parties must agree to the inventory.
Then what follows is the valuation, which in some cases will be the purchase price, (possibly discounted due to age/use of the asset such as motor cars. In other instances, like jewelry, an independent valuation might be required.
Only then can the court make a just and fair division of the property. This will take into account the facts of the case, whether the spouses can support themselves, how long they were married, the children’s circumstances and of course any fault determination that may have been awarded.
As can be imagined the whole field of property division is fraught with legal complications. Attorneys with skill and experience in dealing with property division after divorce should be appointed to give assurance of a just result in such matters.