September 4, 2016 / como / 0 Comments
Staying calm, composed and maintaining strong self esteem in today’s tough environment can be difficult but is not impossible if you follow a few simple guidelines. Here are 6 tips you can use as a starter guide to self improvement.
Everything and everyone else around you can affect your self esteem. Other people can deliberately or inadvertently damage your self image. Unchecked people and circumstances can ultimately destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even notice. Don’t let these influences get the best of you. But what should you avoid?
1 : A Negative Work Environment
Beware of a “dog eat dog” environment where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive and working extra is expected and not rewarded. In this environment no one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch, dinner, and stay at work late into the night. Unless you are very fortunate most of the time you will work too hard with no help from others around you. This type of atmosphere will ruin your self esteem. This is not just healthy competition, at its worst it is brutal and very damaging.
2: Other Peoples Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers – whatever you want to call them, all have one thing in common – an overriding desire to prosper at the expense of others. Avoid them and do not be tempted to join them. They may get some short term advantage with their behavior but deep down most are very insecure, unhappy and ashamed of their behavior. For most their self esteem disappeared a long time ago. Seeing someone like this prosper is sickening but do not join them – you are better than that!
3: A Changing Environment
In today’s fast moving society it is difficult if not impossible to avoid change. Changes challenge our paradigms and tests our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes can make your life difficult and may cause stress but, if it’s inevitable, you must accept it, don’t fight it and in time find ways to improve your life. Try to manage change and try to avoid multiple changes at the same time. If a particular change can’t be avoided welcome it. Change will be with us forever, we must learn to live with it.
4: Past Experience
We all carry “baggage” – past experiences which have molded us to who we are today, but some people live in their past experiences – usually something that hurt and still hurts. It’s okay to cry out when you experience pain but don’t let pain dominate your life as it will transform itself into fears and phobias. If something painful happens, or has happened to you, find a way to minimize the effects. Discuss it with a friend, a family member or a professional if necessary and move on. Don’t let it continue to dominate your life and dictate your future actions. Because something bad has happened doesn’t mean it will happen again. Learn what you can from any bad experience and move on.
5: Negative World View
The television news is full of doom and gloom and it is true that around the world there are many people suffering war, famine or other natural or man-made disasters. Whilst I do not suggest you should not care and do nothing, remember that there are many beautiful positive things happening too. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negative aspects around the world. Learn to look for beauty too for, in building self esteem, we must learn how to be positive in a negative world.
6: Determination Theory
Are we a product of our biological inherited characteristics (nature) or a result of the influences we absorb throughout out lives (nurture)? I believe how we are is due to a mixture of both nurture and nature and as a result our behavioral traits are not fixed. While it is true that some things are dictated by genetics (for example race, color and many inherited conditions) your environment and the people in your life have a major effect on your behavior. You are your own person, you have your own identity and make your own choices. The characteristics your mother or father display are not your destiny. Learn from other people’s experience, so you don’t suffer the same mistakes.
Are some people are born leaders or positive thinkers? I don’t believe so. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing on positive experiences for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. No-one will come to you and give you permission to build your self esteem and improve your self. It is in your control.
It can be hard to keep positive, especially when others and circumstances seem to be conspiring to pull you down. You need to protect yourself and give yourself a chance to stay positive. Improving your self esteem gives you that protection.
One way to stay positive is to minimize your exposure to harmful influences while using affirmations to boost the positive influences in your life. Constantly reminding yourself of the good things in your life will keep the impact of negative influences to a minimum.
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September 3, 2016 / como / 0 Comments
The world seems smaller because we can get to parts of it much more easily. Even compared to our grandparents, our ability to move to another country is a lot less complicated than it used to be. Globalization means that people can and do move away from the hometowns. This has widened our reach and allowed us to meet cultures and have experiences that were unthinkable two generations ago.
This has come at a cost. We may have gotten wings to span the world but at the cost of our roots. We are becoming disconnected with our family. Worse, we have started to undervalue the importance of family. Family is the best support structure we can have. The family is comprise of individuals who are predisposed to love you and encourage you and help you. What people have forgotten is that these relationships are not automatic. Like everything else, these relationships must be worked on and maintained.
Fifty years ago, if a young man and his wife left, say, Albany in New York and moved to Sydney, he was in effect, starting over. He will acknowledge that he has relatives back in the US but the chances of them meeting will be slim unless he can afford traveling the distance. At any rate, it will be visits that will happen rarely.
In our world now that is not quite the case. The cost of traveling has not necessarily become more affordable but the means of staying in touch has. News that could have taken a week or more would be received in a matter of seconds. Birthdays, anniversaries and other familial milestones can be acknowledged and celebrated much more easily. This does not replace actually sharing these milestones in person, but it does not diminish it either.
The easiest way to do this is to make a website devoted to the family. A free website where news can be exchanged and photographs and videos can be shared. This creates a touchstone where family members can stay in touch and maintain their relationships despite their distance from each other. Because news is received almost immediately, people don’t seem as remote.
It doesn’t even have to be a complicated affair, either. A free website builder can be downloaded and different family members can maintain the site so the responsibility and effort can be shared.
It’s important to tend to one’s roots. The family does not have to be left behind while we’re zooming across the world. We have the tools to keep up.
September 2, 2016 / como / 0 Comments
Underground hip hop group Dayton Family is often associated with horror rap outfit Insane Clown Posse because they are signed to ICPs Hatchet House Records. Although Hatchet House is really nothing more than a holding stall for artists Violent J and Shaggy 2 Dope think will be the next big thing in underground hip hop, many old Dayton Family fans take this to mean the ICP has faith that Dayton Family will soon be on the top of the charts, and thanks to the support ICP has given them.
While thats a fair assumption to make in some respects, be careful with the amount of sound similarities you think Dayton Family (traditional underground hip hop) and ICP (horror rap) have. For one, Dayton Family, at least when they were up and coming in the mid 90s, were not a horror rap group. They were a more traditional underground hip hop group whose lyrics touched on themes of survival in an economically challenged environment. There is little talk about the morbid content covered heavily in ICPs horror rap songs.
For proof, lets take a look at some examples from one prominent ICP horror rap song and one prominent Dayton Family underground hip hop song.
ICPs “Chicken Huntin” Horror Rap:
Barrels in your mouth, bullets to your head
The back of your necks all over the shed
Boomshacka boom chop chop band
Im 2 Dope and it aint no thang
To cut a chicken, triggers clicking
Blow off his head but his feet still kicking
Last as long as you can my man
Cause when that chicken head hits the fan you got
Blood guts fingers and toes
Sitting front row at the chicken show so
As you can see, these lyrics are vile to say the least. Furthermore, its pretty obvious that ICP doesnt expect you to take these horror rap lyrics seriously, theyre plainly meant to be funny and for novelty purposes only. Despite the fact that both Violent J and Shaggy 2 Dope come from backgrounds similar to Dayton Family, they choose to make funny horror rap songs in most instances instead of more traditional underground hip hop songs.
Dayton Familys “F.B.I.” Underground Hip Hop:
I’m wakin up in the mornin, with problems on my mind
Motherf*ck the education and drug rehabilitation
I’m smokin on that weed and the green is getting tasty
Dead feds in my closet cause they tried to chase me
These are the opening lines to Dayton Familys “F.B.I.”, and the paint a completely different picture than the horror rap lyrics do right off the bat. With much of underground hip hops themes similar to those mentioned above in the Dayton Family song, it would appear that they are not the anomaly, ICP and their horror rap is.
So, to say that underground hip hop group Dayton Family will be the next big thing in horror rap because of ICP taking them under its wing would be misguided. Chances are that, if Dayton Family does regain the momentum it once had, it will be because theyre bringing back the same gritty street lyrics that once made them popular, not because they crossed genres into horror rap.
However, as is the path for an successful artist signed to Hatchet House, if Dayton Family does get their career back on track, they will most likely end up being signed to horror rap record label Psychopathic Records, where every artist as a horror rap artist. None are mainstream underground hip hop like Dayton Family.
Keeping that in mind, it would not shock anyone if Dayton Family and the horror rap heads in charge at Psychopathic found a way to make a hybrid sound by combining both horror rap and the underground hip hop Dayton Family is known for!
September 1, 2016 / como / 0 Comments
When a lot of the big and small businesses think about their website design, they only put thought into their home page or the landing page which is indeed a very crucial one and determines whether the visitor is impressed or not and would go further to check the other pages.
Surely, a home page is indeed very crucial but it is not the only place that could particularly sell you to the prospects. And if you actually ignore the other pages on your site, it does not matter how great your homepage looks. A website should indeed be a wealth of the relevant information on the product or service offered, a guide to your business — not just a one page brochure which is just a piece of incomplete information. Yes, the web page design for the particular homepage is indeed very crucial but beyond the process of designing a great design for their home page, the Web Design Tasmania companies particularly need to use the same thinking for the other pages of their site as well. Your web designer indeed offers the several packages to choose from. Do not neglect some of the crucial places on your site in favour of spending all your time on the homepage.
Search Engine Spiders Crawl Each Page of Your Site Unless you tell them not to, the search engines will indeed bring the traffic to every of the page that sits on your website. For that particular reason, every page in your website needs to be able to stand alone in terms of the presenting your company in a positive light and in the best possible manner. Each of the page could be a doorway so each of the page needs to appeal to search engines and to potential customers as well. The web design Hobart optimizes each page of your website to make it more attractive and readable and searchable to the visitors and the potential customers.
The more of the information-rich pages your website has, the better chance you have of meeting the needs of the people browsing it looking for more relevant information of their interest. Each of the pages should indeed contain the different contents but should really contain some of the very common elements so that the people always know where they are. The web design Hobart elements to include on each page include: the branding / information about your company, and the various links to get to other pages such as “about us”, “buy now”, “contact”.
Each of the page should have the clear and uniform menus so that people can see how to get to another page of the site. If this isn’t present, they could simply leave your site before getting a chance to be convinced that your company is worth dealing with.
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